Sunday, November 30, 2025
Litti Chokha - health bhi, taste bhi.
Wednesday, August 6, 2025
Book Review - Raising Cubby by John Elder Robinson.
This is an autobiography of a brilliant engineer John Elder Robinson and his son Jack. John didn't know he had Asperger's Syndrome until the age of 40. Asperger's syndrome is a developmental disorder that was previously considered a separate condition but is now classified as part of the broader autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Like most autistic individuals, people with Asperger's syndrome typically exhibit difficulties with social interaction and communication, along with restricted or repetitive patterns of behaviour and interests but often have average or above-average intelligence and relatively intact language development.
Broken homes throw a challenge on the kids who are most neglected suffer the most and that's a common social problem especially in western countries. So when John's parents separated and he was left to fend himself he dropped out of the school and left home to fend for himself. Luckily by that time he had developed an interest in Music and Electronics that helped him survive by joining music bands. His interest and expertise made him wanted in the industry, and he moved from one to another and gained popularity. He had difficulties socialising and communicating due to his Asperger's syndrome that he didn't understand and suffered. However, he still managed to carry-on with his life. Then came a time when he and his girlfriend decided to get married, and Jack came to their life. John was so anxious about safety of his child that in the hospital where Jack was born John put his signature on the newborn with a permanent marker. His whole life revolves around Jack whom he wanted to excel in life. Jack too showered his love and affection for his dad in reciprocal but again a divorce of his parents put a stress on him. By the time he was in the high school he developed interest in science especially in Chemistry and he made a small lab at home experimenting in various ways that could produce rockets and explosives. He was indeed a brilliant student. His father over the years moved from music and electronics to corporate world to an entrepreneur in a specialised car servicing and building junk cars into as good as new. His business was successful, and he earned a decent living. As is with most parents who find teenage children most difficult to handle. Jack would just lock up himself in the room and John would never find out what is happening with him. Over the growing years both father and son were diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome that complicates the communication and socialisation. Later it came to notice that Jack's mother who also divorced by then also had Asperger's. Jack would also exploit the situation of divorced parents and take advantage of both to fulfil his ambitions.
While all children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) have some sort of difficulty in the areas of social interaction, communication and behaviour, the extent of difficulties may vary from one child with autism to another. No two individuals share an identical set of difficulties. This is why autism is referred as a spectrum disorder - to represent the broad range challenges found among those with autism. ASD includes the usual autistic disorder, Asperger's disorder, Rett's disorder, childhood disintegrative disorder and pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified. Children with autism vary widely in abilities, intelligence and behaviour.
The jury is out on the causes of Autism including Asperger's Syndrome and its connection with genes. This story gives impression that this is genetic as John, his wife, his father and grandfather also were believed to have had the syndrome.
Well returning to the story, John was quite concerned about Jack who over the high school years became very fond of chemistry and had experimented in the neighbourhood woods about rockets and explosions of mild intensity. The trouble started when he started putting the videos of these experiments that got noticed with law enforcement agencies who pounced on him in larger-than-life proportions. Anti-terrorist agencies, FBI and local police everyone got after him and looked at him from the anti-national and terrorism angles.
The novel has interesting chapters that deal with the Jack's honesty about his experiments and the criminal justice system from which only got can save honest and innocent people and that's universal, got worst after the 9/11.
Well, in the end justice was done and Jack was judged innocent by jury and the judge. However, the "perpetrators", the state law enforcement and district attorneys who unnecessarily stretched the case and spent hundreds of thousands of exchequer's money went "scot-free", that's how the life is.
John today 14 years after the judgement is an author and an authority on the subject and lectures around on autism.
Sunday, July 6, 2025
Sitaare Zameen Par - a film review.
Monday, June 30, 2025
Book Review - The Sound of a Miracle.
Thursday, June 5, 2025
Book Review - Somebody Somewhere.
Book Review.
In Somebody Somewhere she continues her journey after she establishes herself as an author and returns to her home country Australia to live independently. Her struggle with life continues due to autism, she describes her determination and helping others like her in this book. Her relationship with her sympathetic landlord's family and her psychologist, her reaching out to people to speak about her book for promotion and her interaction with a publishing agent towards her second book.
It's amazing how she comes as not only a winner after autism captures her at every stage of life but she also helps a few others who she finds similarly affected with ASD and makes them stronger.
At one stage during her day long stopover in Srilanka on the way from Australia to the UK she had to struggle to shut up the cab driver who behaved in a typical manner as we all experience leachers who try to attract "foreign tourists".. Their conversation goes like:
"you married? Do you have a boyfriend? Do you like Srilanka? Do you like Srilanka men? Have you ever had a boyfriend? Are you afraid of AIDS? Would you like to get married? Would you like to get married to me? The taxi driver went on and on as I answered each question honestly. It wasn't until he got to the last question and he explained his intentions that I understood what was happening. I thought it was a sort of factual quiz, a culture study on his behalf, or that maybe he was into sociology or something."
Now such conversation would make any neurotypical woman nervous, sweating and fearful but Donna braves the situation and firmly asks the driver to return to the hotel.
It's a story worth reading and appreciating her bravery.
May' 2025
#donnawilliams #SomebodySomewhere #autism #ASD
Book Review - Nobody Nowhere.
April 03, 2025
Book Review.
Nobody Nowhere by Donna Williams.

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Seldom you come across a subject that completely changes the way you approach the world. Autism is one that has little awareness in the world, although it has gained a substantial ground over the last four decades when even people from the psychology and psychiatry profession hardly showed any interest in studying and helping those affected.
Seldom you come across a book that completely captivates you takes over your imagination and changes your perception of the world, forever. Donna Williams autobiography (written in two parts) Nobody Nowhere is one such book I discovered. Donna is autistic and born in the era when almost no one knew of this neuro divergence.
She was taken for born-mad and was punished severely by many first of all her mother. She struggled as a child and as she grew older.. left home as a teenager, survived on some people's kindness, became homeless, got exploited sexually and otherwise until she reached her twenties. The bright and intelligent girl in her could not remain in isolation and she overcame her autism issues by training herself and became a teacher and a counsellor, a writer, artist, singer- song writer, a sculptor and much more.
The book changes our perception of the condition. It's rare or almost absent that an autistic person discovers her/his condition and trains herself to overcome the hurdles and shares her experience to encourage neurodivergent people and their family and friends to live more meaningful life.
It's a must read for every one who are interested in understanding human diversity.
April 01, 2025
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Some excerpts from the book:
I had begun to feel something was missing but I did not know what it was. I had a doll and wanted very much to cut it open to see if it had any feeling inside. I took a knife and tried to pry it open but became afraid of the consequences of breaking the doll and simply went on wondering for the next few years.
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I remember, when I was about seven, how I got a slap in the face after walking into someone 's house and announcing, " it's very dirty on here", and following it up by enthusiastically informing the host that he " only had one arm.". This was fairly typical of me, and I came to earn myself a reputation as rude, hurtful and outspoken. Later this same quality sometimes came to earn me respect as someone who was "never afraid to say what she thinks."
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I believe that all thoughts begin with feelings. such children have feelings, but it has developed in isolation and can't be verbalised in the usual way, and most people cannot hear with anything other than their ears.
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TS Eliot wrote " in my beginning is my end" and in
my end is my beginning ". perhaps in some strange way I started at the end and tried to work my way back.
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Through his paintings, Vincent van Gogh tried to teach people to look beyond the surface image of things and to see the true beauty in the individuality of things so often dismissed as ugly.
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Above all I would encourage those who have strived to help people like myself that their efforts are not useless. Responding in an indirect or detached manner is not synonymous with indifference.
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